I was invited by my female mentor, Nana Darkoa to go talk on the Sister Sister show hosted by Jessica on Citi FM 97.3 this evening. Unfortunately, I was late and since it was my first time on radio I decided not to talk but listen and observe.
The topic for the show was, I discovered my fiance visits porn websites on his laptop. I considered forgiving him but I came back from work the next day and so him butt naked having cyber sex. I was pissed and he didn't get why I was pissed and the idiot was like it isn't a big deal. Do I lock my ass to the freak or do I run for my life? (OK, it wasn't in these exact words but you get the picture so keep reading).
Everyone had their opinions about this thing. People said it wasn't a big deal. At least he wasn't caught in bed or he wasn't physically cheating so she should stick to locking herself in marriage. People said it was the same thing as watching porn.
Others said it was the same as cheating and I agree with this. Cheating is cheating whichever way you look at it. I think there was a point that people confused about the topic and made it seem like the man was 'sexing' with some random chick or one of those cyber girls. He could have been doing it with his neighbor, secretary, next girl, whoever... He was still 'b)ing mu' for someone.
If you start your relationship by being honest about your fetishes and shit it shouldn't be a problem. If you decide to be in an open relationship then sorry bitch you can't bitch! It is to be expected.
You can look at this from different sides.
Maybe the woman is boring as fuck when it comes to fucking; repetition of sex styles, can't do freaky shit, always dead when doing the do.
Maybe the man is an adventurer; tries new shit, gets tired of doing the same thing, likes to be freaky etc...
Maybe he is just doggish( I must fuck everything in a skirt or at least try to fuck everything in a skirt).
My opinion was or is, if she thinks she can't deal with this leave! If she thinks she can handle her man stay and find out where she went wrong, try and spice up the relationship by doing some exhibitionist type shit in town or going for quickies at his office. Anything chale... Try and make it work...
Screw Ghanaian society and feel free to be yourself. Do what makes you happy because if you decide to still follow this backward society you will forever be miserable... Yes miserable!(too bad if you reading this post is a sad Ghanaian, I said it. My opinion).
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